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Some of you know this already. The ones I have on Facebook, anyway.

I left my spouse this week. She's been cheating on me for over a year. She has the kids. I was able to get out in a few days with everything that I considered "mine".

My phone crashed and died one a week ago. I finally got a new phone a couple days ago. I suspect that my old phone has some Cheating Spouse tracking software on it (ironic, since she was cheating on me. Probably using that to make sure I didn't cross paths with them together), as a result, I do not want to use Google backup to recover my phone numbers. Those of you that had my number, please drop me a text or PM with your number so I can get it into my contacts.

On another note, one of my step-sons collapsed yesterday at his home. By the time EMS got there, his heart had stopped. They shocked him 4 times and revived him. Right now he's in a medically-induced coma where they've reduced his body temp in an effort to save his brain. He has kidney, liver, lung, and heart damage. We don't know if it's pneumonia or meningitis. He is showing signs of impovement. Tomorrow they are going to start increasing his body temp and try to revive him.

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Oh my gosh Allen. Sorry to hear about step-son. Didn't see that on FB, or did I missed it. So many things rolling by like a blur.

Don't worry buddy. Grass is always greener in different part of the lake. Keep the line tight, and you'll catch a golden prize later. You're doing quite well for yourself, and remained dignify.

Leo, this all went down after my cell phone died, before I got my new one. She tagged me in a couple of posts, calling me worthless, etc. I was unable to respond. Once I got a new phone and activated it, I made a post on FB explaining that I had left her. I haven't said anything else about this on FB, in an effort to maintain civil relations with my ex, on behalf of our children.

Contested divorce is bad enough, but to be treated like she has, just shows she was never worthy of you from the beginning. My nephew a few years and my wife's cousin recently had the same situation, with spouses that got viscous for no good reason nor any reason for that matter. People who know you will never see her public comments as anything but a ploy prior to divorce to provoke you, but stay true to yourself and remember to take the high road as tough as it will be. Value family and friends as the first line of defense against any further personal attacks on your integrity and if you are a church goer, seek spiritual help and advice. 

The best of luck to you and we all wish you the best.

Frank

Hang tight for your son - live for him right now. 

As for her, some of the best advice I've seen is this:

People who know you will never see her public comments as anything but a ploy prior to divorce to provoke you, but stay true to yourself and remember to take the high road as tough as it will be.

Value family and friends as the first line of defense against any further personal attacks on your integrity and if you are a church goer, seek spiritual help and advice. 

I will also say to do all you can to prove her infidelity. In court, should it go there, that will go a long way.

Don't do this out of spite or vindictiveness, but as self-defense.

Don't tip your hand to her, and pick your battles wisely.

You have to protect yourself - in the long run, its better for you and your kids. 


I've been there, done that. 

Thanks.

Justin is good to go now.  He ended up having a defibrillator implanted into his chest (not something a 20-year-old needs).  He's back in his home now.

My ex and I were never legally married.  Michigan does not recognize common-law marriage (although Oklahoma does).  I guess that's a lucky thing for me.  No divorce court, no alimony, etc.  We still need to go through Friend of the Court to get the child support set up.  I've been buying groceries, and keeping all receipts for that.  Only problem is that she does NOT want to go through the legal system.  According to her, she would have to claim any support as income, and that will affect her Disability, and the kid's SSI, which is how she gets money (unless her new beau buys some things).  Personally, while I see the logic in that, I think she doesn't want to go through the court because she knows she's not going to get much (ALL the kids are on SSI, she gets Disability, her new beau works, and his brother I believe gets Disability as well).  She wants cash under the table, weekly.  I'm refusing that.  I'll buy groceries, but NO CASH.  That can't be traced, plus she has a long history of not always using cash gifts for their intended use.

Sorry I just seen this. Wish you the best of luck with everything

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