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Oh my gosh Allen. Sorry to hear about step-son. Didn't see that on FB, or did I missed it. So many things rolling by like a blur.
Don't worry buddy. Grass is always greener in different part of the lake. Keep the line tight, and you'll catch a golden prize later. You're doing quite well for yourself, and remained dignify.
Contested divorce is bad enough, but to be treated like she has, just shows she was never worthy of you from the beginning. My nephew a few years and my wife's cousin recently had the same situation, with spouses that got viscous for no good reason nor any reason for that matter. People who know you will never see her public comments as anything but a ploy prior to divorce to provoke you, but stay true to yourself and remember to take the high road as tough as it will be. Value family and friends as the first line of defense against any further personal attacks on your integrity and if you are a church goer, seek spiritual help and advice.
The best of luck to you and we all wish you the best.
Hang tight for your son - live for him right now.
As for her, some of the best advice I've seen is this:
People who know you will never see her public comments as anything but a ploy prior to divorce to provoke you, but stay true to yourself and remember to take the high road as tough as it will be.
Value family and friends as the first line of defense against any further personal attacks on your integrity and if you are a church goer, seek spiritual help and advice.
I will also say to do all you can to prove her infidelity. In court, should it go there, that will go a long way.
Don't do this out of spite or vindictiveness, but as self-defense.
Don't tip your hand to her, and pick your battles wisely.
You have to protect yourself - in the long run, its better for you and your kids.
I've been there, done that.
Justin is good to go now. He ended up having a defibrillator implanted into his chest (not something a 20-year-old needs). He's back in his home now.
My ex and I were never legally married. Michigan does not recognize common-law marriage (although Oklahoma does). I guess that's a lucky thing for me. No divorce court, no alimony, etc. We still need to go through Friend of the Court to get the child support set up. I've been buying groceries, and keeping all receipts for that. Only problem is that she does NOT want to go through the legal system. According to her, she would have to claim any support as income, and that will affect her Disability, and the kid's SSI, which is how she gets money (unless her new beau buys some things). Personally, while I see the logic in that, I think she doesn't want to go through the court because she knows she's not going to get much (ALL the kids are on SSI, she gets Disability, her new beau works, and his brother I believe gets Disability as well). She wants cash under the table, weekly. I'm refusing that. I'll buy groceries, but NO CASH. That can't be traced, plus she has a long history of not always using cash gifts for their intended use.
Sorry I just seen this. Wish you the best of luck with everything